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5 ways to deal with Impatience as an immigrant/expat

Be patient! It takes time… Wait a moment! Let me think about it!  The dictionary says that patience is “the capacity to accept or tolerate delay, problems, or suffering without becoming annoyed or anxious”.  How do we accept and tolerate delays and problems and suffering without becoming anxious? How do we do that when we […]

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Expat VS Immigrant: a matter of language aesthetics

I have noticed a confusion of terms regarding people who choose to live in other countries than where they have been born and raised. I find it interesting to see how each person identifies him/herself.  Therefore, dictionaries are helpful. I am using here the English Cambridge dictionary, which has straightforward definitions for both terms: An […]

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How “work” can become a drug

I don’t know if it is new, yet it is the most accepted behavior to “fall into” in the world. It doesn’t matter if it ruins families just as much as chemicals. It is considered a much safer place to hide the real emotions or to channel negative feelings than any other legal or illegal […]

How Eating meets your needs and follow you around the World

Cambridge dictionary definition says that eating disorders are mental illnesses. I, though, don’t see it this way. I mostly see them as emotional distress.   First of all, we eat so we can survive. Lack of proper food leads to diseases and malnutrition. Yet, food meets more than this particular need in many people. One of […]

Hunger as a drive away from home

Among the feelings that drive people away from their countries, we also find the feeling of hunger. Looking for a definition of this word, I found the Cambridge dictionary, which says the following: “a feeling of discomfort or weakness caused by lack of food, coupled with the desire to eat”, “the feeling you have when […]

Shades of Shame while being an Expat/Immigrant

There are many reasons people may choose to live in other countries than their own. I like to believe that our feelings drive us away, and at the same time, they also keep us in touch with our roots. There are positive feelings that determine us to move away. I link here the article, where […]

My week of quarantine in Sandefjord, Norway

Yes! I have been visiting my family in a red zone. Red for Norway, because people ruling this country are cautious and prefer to take extra care measures than risk people’s health. Therefore I have been in quarantine for 9 days.  I arrived in Norway via Torp airport. It was a long queue at Passport […]

What is “burn-out”

“Burn-out” is that state when you are so tired that you feel angry all the time. No matter what people would try to tell you, you answer with anger, and you wish people didn’t see you, so you won’t be forced to talk to them.Is that state when you don’t feel like getting out of […]

How to deal with other people fears / feelings

It is important to take into account the feelings of the people who surround us. We do not live alone in the world, and we usually tend to develop ourselves in meetings and relationships with other people.   We are born in a social “system” with parents and eventually siblings, and perhaps extended family.  The importance […]

Fear of what we know

FEAR is one of the four primary feelings we have. It is instinctive, and it is planted in our subconscious because we need it to keep us safe. If we think of the old times, when people lived in cages and hunting in forests, fear was necessary. If they met a giant predator, of course, […]

Rejected

There are many types of fear. And fear has to do with danger and with things that may happen in the future. It’s meant to keep us alive.  Yet, some fears can do us more harm than good. One of these fears is the fear of being rejected. Fear of being rejected is a kind […]

Knowledge VS Wisdom

There is a lot of information around us when it comes to mental and emotional health. We are swamped with books, articles, TV and internet shows, opinions, and advice. Everything we want to know, we ask our best friend in need: Google. Or, we ask friends and family and strangers on FB or Instagram. We […]

What would people say!

As you may have already understood, I bring up in this articles questions and issues that pop up in my therapy room. This time is about “Feedback”. How do we hear and take feedback? Good or bad. How well are people prepared to hear what is told around them, in the environments they walkabout? “What would […]

Coaching VS Therapy

In my practice I have received this question quite often: what is the difference between therapy and coaching. Therapy sounds like someone is bad mentally and needs extreme treatment and pills and it is almost crazy. Not quite true. That is something psychiatrist are dealing with. Therapy helps you heal past emotions and people need […]

Freedom, rights, and flowers

Do you know what are we celebrating March 8th? It may seem like a simple question with a simple answer. It’s international women’s day. We celebrate women all over the world. But in which way? What is it that we celebrate about women? What I have noticed is that this particular day has different meanings […]

YOU MUST

There is nothing you MUST

How many times have you heard people around you telling you that “you MUST” do this, or you MUST do that, or you should, or you ought to do whatever? Or even speaking about themselves and saying: “I must do this or that”.  In the end, after hearing these words so many times in our […]

9 ways to deal with Anxiety on the spot

Anxiety is Fear of the unknown: that we do not have control over our surroundings which is followed by not knowing how we are going to react in certain circumstances. What to say, what to do. Ok, we wanted to be/or not in this particular situation (doesn’t matter which). Now what. I have no idea […]

Maintenance

I wonder if you ever used this word, and in what context? What does it mean, “maintenance”? Maintenance means when you take your car to the garage, check that is running well, and you are not risking any accidents on the road. Maintenance is when you are cleaning the house to breathe clean air and […]

Needs and communication in relationships

Couple’s therapy. I always admire people who decide to go into couple’s therapy. That is a sign that they want to work on their relationship and understand each other. I suppose you may already have noticed that all relationships require work. It does not matter if we are talking about friendships or love relationships or […]

ANGER

Anger is one of the primary feelings we have, and it is meant to protect us.  Anger is the emotion we feel in the present moment, and it has to do with the trespassing of personal boundaries or territories. When our values or something essential for us is threatened, we get angry and irritated. We are willing to […]

How therapy works

When I say that I have therapy praxis, I notice different reactions from people. Some stop for some seconds and try to digest what they’ve heard. Others answer with long: “Ooooookeeeeyyy!” or “Interesting”. And the conversation stops there. With time I realized that people around me have a different understanding of what “therapy” means than […]

Migration of Emotion

Behind the decision of moving, working and living in another country always lies a feeling; one that gives us the necessary energy to proceed with the action. I like to call it Migration of Emotion because we take with us our feelings about how it is going to be in the new place to which […]

The Invisible Luggage

People move a lot, generally. Move from a house to another, from a city to another, from one country to another. But why do they do that? What is it that makes them choose “the moving” move? In my experience, people move because they believe that somewhere else they will feel better. They will have […]

The Child King : food for thought

The concept of children as “Kings” and “Queens” is a special one. We do not often come across it, even if it makes sense. Children are our future. The way we take care of them shows how we take care of our future. Therefore, the way we raise our children is important. Norway and Scandinavia […]

Nothing is lost, but changed

    Recently, I’ve been asked how living in Norway has changed me? Well, it changed me in many ways. I have learned a lot about myself and about others. I have learned what it means to be a human being and what it means to be tolerant. The concept of “tolerance” doesn’t really exist […]

Speak the words, but not the culture

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